Written on Thursday, April 13, 2006 by Rohan Koshy
What is it about the internet that makes us lose inhibitions and open up to people that we don’t know and may have never met. I ponder this question as i form online relationships (read friends) with people on a more regular basis. The blanket security that the anonymity of the internet provides us to open so much more easily is very intriguing.
I've told things to my online friends that i have never told my other friends in such a short time of knowing them. I think the success of online relationships really lies in one thing:-Words. The fact is people can express much, much more coherently when they write than when they speak. It’s just easier to express what you really feel. I know it’s sounds like a paradox because there’s no tone or inflexion when you write but I feel people always write with more thought than they speak…harsh words come out less... and thoughts come out better than when u speak. It’s funny that because it takes so much time to type you actually think about what you’re gonna say. (Or type)
Somehow with the advent of voice chat and later video chat I think this online openness will diminish. I think that because you cant see or hear the person you basically judge them by what they actually say (type) which in a funny way may be what matters. Online relationships I feel will start with only regular chat and only then move to voice and video.
Although I digressed a lot from the topic at hand back there I feel it really could make a difference to online relationships. But I will never cease to be amazed as how the blanket of anonymity continues to allow people to make friends faster than ever before.
Maybe it’s because most of the time the person your talking to cant really use this information for any good and maybe most importantly they’re there because they only want to do one thing:-Talk. And nothing else. They’re not stuck in traffic; they’re not talking to you while they’re on their way to meet someone else, they’re not eating and talking!!.
To conclude it’s just cool how all the boundaries are gone and how you can make often better friends in cyberspace than in 3 dimensional space
Written on Thursday, April 06, 2006 by Rohan Koshy
Too much coincedence is one thing and little help from fate is another but i heard a story
which truly made me wonder why i(and most people for that matter) are so sckeptical.
The following is a true story about a friend in which the circumstances are all real (although the names have been changed for anynonimity)Ok we start approximately 9 years ago when i was in seventh.My freind Raj is in delhi happy being a brat and raising hell until he ends up failing a few subjects.He's gets better and becomes a much better student.Unfortunately he has to leave for jaipur and so transfers to a school there where he spends the next 2 years getting better grades.Fortunately ( and as fate would have it) he has to return back to delhi and enrolls back into the same school.This is when he comes across the lovely Tina.
Now from here the details are a bit sketchy but they spend the next two years getting to know each other and from what im told he's now in love with said lass and so as every story goes love blossoms in one heart (and im not sure in the other or not...that part was conveniently...ahem.... left out)
So the 11th has come and gone and so has the 12th and apparently the guts have not been musterered to ask lady love out yet.Now with the 12th over major entrance tests loom and those are studied for and given but unfortunately( or is it fortunate) they are dead ends.SO after searching for engg colleges in a lot of cities he decides to come to pune.
They BOTH end up here eventually ,though in different colleges.SO new city, no parents , new experiences.My friend decides to go for broke and asks her out(Finally!!!).Now i dont write depressing articles with sad endings so ofcourse she says yes.
At this point i was quite happy that they both ended up here.They are ofcourse still together and doing well.It was cool to of a love story spanning so many cities and so much time.Sounds like fate a hand to play.
The second best part? He had a hand convincing her to come here.Now good luck or fate can only help so much but somewhere you have to step up and take the plunge and so he did.
The BEST part? When he left school in delhi(to return two years later) he vacated a seat.There was only that seat vacant.
She took THAT seat.
Maybe we oughta be a little bit less cynical and believe a bit more.In the age of messy breakups and rising divorce rates this was refreshing to hear.....
Written on Tuesday, April 04, 2006 by Rohan Koshy
Shit happens
When you just cant seem to get a slice of luck,
When you're stuck in a rut,
When you're riding and someone splashes muck.
When you're starry eyed, but you're dreams get crushed
Shit happens
When you order coffee but the milk is burnt,
When the cop's waiting exactly where you took the wrong turn
When you sit at home and you're bored out of your mind,
When you do someone a favour but they dont repay in kind.
Shit happens
When all you wanna do is sleep but they dont let you,
When you wanna get your point across but they dont get you,
When you leave a restaurant and see that the cops towed your bike,
When you leave the house and realise the petrolwallahs are on strike.
Shit happens
When your watching a movie at home and MSEB cuts the power
When you realise you need the cell phone rates to be lower,
When the PL's come and go and you havent done a thing.
When tommorow's the paper and all those xeroxed notes go missing.
Shit happens
When you realise that you haven't written a single stupid writeup.
When everything seems like it's torn apart....
When you know that you're facing the hardest part.
Shit happens
When you have great expectations from a movie that's so-so,
When find out your internet connection is too slow.
When you leave for a second and find that the toast is burning
But most of all Shit Happens,
Early in the morning!!!!
