The imporatance of being wrong
Written on Tuesday, August 22, 2006 by Rohan Koshy
Going through life you often wonder how much experience teaches you...We make the same mistakes over and over again in our lives and blame on more than a few things.Well what happens when a recent experience cancells out a previous one.What i mean is that our notions are fixed by our experiences but what happens when experiences conflict with our notions.
Recently the same happened to me.What i learnt about weakness' in people got turned on its head.Sadly i have to admit that sometimes i find people weak.It's a terrible judgement to pass on some i readily admit but it seems unavoidable.A curious need to appease your own ego causes you to find weakness in others.Even worse to admit this judgement often leaves me with a simoltaneous mix of shame and pride.
Recently this shame visited me again as i started to make new friends here in chennai.Im really not sure if everyone does it but sometimes i compare some of the new friends to my old ones.
My roommates are great....but some of the other people i've met are jus ...... different.Unfortunately adjusting to people from different cultures takes a bit of work and asks you to leave some pre-concieved notions behind.
What really happened was that i judged someone far too quickly as weak and having made that assimption continued to re-affirm it by the conclusions i drew from the actions of the person.However a deep,dark tragedy lay seated behind those eyes i judged to be weak.The shame, when it comes, overwhelmes. It should too....because you wont change unless you hate yourself.
Im glad that it happened and yet feel sad for having so readily accepted the common train of thought that runs through most people everyday.
To that person,who should not have been judged, i ask forgiveness.
